From our earliest memories, many of us felt like we never belonged. The stark reality as a child living in the Care System is – quite often we really didn’t belong.
Deep down, we believed that if we really let others get to know us, they would reject us. We had enough evidence as abused children to believe this to be true.
Many of us hid the pain of our alienation with an attitude of defiance. In effect, we told the world, “You don’t need me? Well, I don’t need any of you, either”. The higher our insecurities and anxiety built – the higher the walls we built around ourselves.
Those walls begin to fall when we start finding acceptance from our past. The slow, painful process of self forgiveness, and of forgiveness of others, often our abusers. With this acceptance, we begin to learn the important principle of self-acceptance. And when we start to accept ourselves, we can allow others to take part in our lives without fear of rejection.
Finding self acceptance was a beautiful moment in my life.
Much love Jenny – Aka Hackney Child